Like it or learn to like it.
Whilst it might hurt the first time and for a few seconds on each subsequent try at the beginning, this is often because your partner may be rushing entry and will not have your primed you properly. Use lots of lube (essential!) and try with a single finger, progress to small insertables (butt-plugs) before going the whole hog. A little bit of clitoral stimulation will help relax you, too. The more tense your body is, the more chance that the entry will hurt.
IT WILL CAUSE DAMAGE
If your vagina can stand up to child birth and go back to normal, the anus has little to worry about when talking about the girth of a penis. As long as you use plenty of lubricant, you’ll come out of the experience unscathed and unhurt. Just take things slowly to begin with.
ANAL SEX IS DIRTY
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Annab. I love your choice. Or gift.
Recently in a submissive’s forum on Fetlife, the question was posed, “is your submission a gift?”. Some said to stop putting “fancy labels” on it, that it’s simply a “choice”, others said it was a gift. i’m sure there are as many answers as there are people. But for me it feels like coming home. A comfortable, safe place to fall that feels like the real me. The only “choice” i’ve made throughout the years was to do what was “appropriate” or “expected” of me. And it’s no surprise to anyone that living a life that is not the real you only leads to disappointment and resentment. Being with SB has always felt like home, even when the D/s was not named or overt. i’ve always looked to Him to be in charge, to care for me, to do what i can to please Him. i’m not sure i ever…
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Again good advice for us too annab.
About a week and a half ago, we had a mishap. M and I suffered some miscommunication and it hurt the both of us. We talked and tried to connect in the days that followed, but he worked 16 hour days and we didn’t see much of one another, except late in the evening.
For the past week, my oldest daughter was away at camp. Youngest daughter sleeps like a rock and goes to bed early, so we took advantage of the extra time in the evenings. We truly talked more in depth than we have in a while, every night, trying to get to the bottom of our miscommunication issue and work past it. I think we ended up having some of the best talks we’ve had since this all began.
While the talks began by revolving around the topic of the miscommunication, they became so much more. They…
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I feel the same way for my annab.
My husband doesn’t initiate loads of emotional or deep conversations. Not that he isn’t interested in having them, he is just very introspective and has some difficulty putting his thoughts to words at times. When he does speak, I listen. I hear. I don’t forget. When he speaks about his emotions, his words mean something. They are not just words.
Last night, we were sitting together, talking. We were going over the ‘what if’s’ regarding the job interviews and moving and things. Our conversation touched on the stress involved in the process and how to help one another through it. He said to me, “I need you. You are not my stress. All your quirks and overthinking and innuendos and witty comments, I love them. You needing me does not cause me stress. I love you, you ground me.”
And this is all I could ever ask for.
My babygirl spot on, this is us.
Great insight on how to have a successful relationship.
We’ve had a hectic couple of weeks. M’s work schedule has been so demanding and he had an interview a couple weeks ago that has left us in limbo. It has taken a toll. We are both worn out and we’ve been feeling a little disconnected or off.
Lately, M has been looking overwhelmed – he is already an introspective man, but he’s been more so. My instinct when this happens is to try find out what is going on, but I also worry and I grasp at his shirttails. I do not beg for attention or act out, but I truly cling to him. I feel unsure and uneasy. I initiate conversations until I feel like we get to the bottom of things.
We’ve been talking and talking and I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. I realized that what I want most of all is for M to…
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